Straight to the point! Collaboration is needed whether it’s in your personal or professional life. Your example of The Beetles hits the nail on the head. At the end of the day everyone wants to know What In It For Me? You will be surprised what you discover thru collaboration- give it a try!
I have noticed myself, at times, occupying only one side of the giving/receiving spectrum. I like this idea of reciprocal relationships- these seem to be the most beneficial and sustainable ones. I think that even bringing awareness to where we fall on the spectrum is a practice in itself.
I really like how you suggest meeting other peoples’ limits with grace and understanding instead of judgment or irritation. We all have different circumstances and limitations that determine what we can skillfully contribute to others, and this practice honors that.
I will find a place to practice this- thank you for sharing!
I'm glad you interpret it this way. A quick skim might lead a reader to infer we are suggesting that people "keep score" and sever ties when someone doesn't match our contribution. But when you hit that a person's limits on reciprocity, it can simply help understand the limits on the relationship, a very good thing so our expectations aren't inaccurate. In the vast majority of relationships, of course we keep those relationships. I think @Mirela Petalli and I will be talking about that in a coming brief, just to make that clear.
We wrote that sort-of assuming that our readers are non-reactive, but of course we all are sometimes. When I'm in reactive-mode, "cut em off" might be the first thing that comes to mind. Fortunately that rarely, like close to never, actually turns into (re)action for me.
Straight to the point! Collaboration is needed whether it’s in your personal or professional life. Your example of The Beetles hits the nail on the head. At the end of the day everyone wants to know What In It For Me? You will be surprised what you discover thru collaboration- give it a try!
I have noticed myself, at times, occupying only one side of the giving/receiving spectrum. I like this idea of reciprocal relationships- these seem to be the most beneficial and sustainable ones. I think that even bringing awareness to where we fall on the spectrum is a practice in itself.
I really like how you suggest meeting other peoples’ limits with grace and understanding instead of judgment or irritation. We all have different circumstances and limitations that determine what we can skillfully contribute to others, and this practice honors that.
I will find a place to practice this- thank you for sharing!
I'm glad you interpret it this way. A quick skim might lead a reader to infer we are suggesting that people "keep score" and sever ties when someone doesn't match our contribution. But when you hit that a person's limits on reciprocity, it can simply help understand the limits on the relationship, a very good thing so our expectations aren't inaccurate. In the vast majority of relationships, of course we keep those relationships. I think @Mirela Petalli and I will be talking about that in a coming brief, just to make that clear.
We wrote that sort-of assuming that our readers are non-reactive, but of course we all are sometimes. When I'm in reactive-mode, "cut em off" might be the first thing that comes to mind. Fortunately that rarely, like close to never, actually turns into (re)action for me.